There is a reason why heterosexual people are obsessed with asking similar-sex couples, “So, who’s the man?” They want to know who fucks and who, as it were, is fucked. Because sex is power – specifically, the exercise of male power upon women – then any time power is exercised, it invokes the spectre of male and female roles. When sex is defined by power, determine who has the power in the fuck and who does not, or who gains social status in the fuck and who loses it, and you will discover who must compulsorily be fucked by whom.
Those of us raised in the Christian tradition need to choose to either see God in Jesus or to continue to let the Bible define God. Our tradition says that Jesus is God. Maybe we should act as if we think he is instead of worshiping a book. Maybe we should be brave enough to admit that we are compelled to either become blinded ideologues or we need to forthrightly pick and choose *what* we follow in the Bible. Most Christians do that anyway, many just don’t admit it.
Young men need to be socialized in such a way that rape is as unthinkable to them as cannibalism.
Mary Pipher, Reviving Ophelia (via ohdreaming)
Important addendum: to also know what rape is. Too many of them understand “rape is bad” but see it in a disconnected, “stranger jumping from bushes” sort of way instead of the “close friend who oversteps boundaries because of entitlement issues”. That last bit? That, and everything that goes into it, needs to be defined as being unthinkable.
the year is 2046. no one has memed in 15 years since king obama the third make memeing illegal. in the dystopian suburbs of fort lauderdale, sixteen year-old Dogecoin de Grasse Sagan found a sexy fedora in an trash dumpster. he put it on and it made a sweet anime noise. he knew then he, was destined to bring memes back to this stupid idiot planet. he looked at the camera and goes “u mad, world?”
Falling in love is like this crazy juxtaposition of, like, “hey, I really want to kiss you in the rain and give you roses and make you feel like the most beautiful thing God ever made,” and also, like, “hey, I really want to put your boobs in my mouth.” Does that make sense? Like, I’ve never felt both things for one person at the same time, and it’s kind of crazy, and I love it.